Whoever said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” was probably white.
Racial slurs hurt….every time.
- "Please list all supervisors."
I have more than one supervisor who has transitioned either MTF or FTM since employment ended—so, while I was technically only ever supervised by “Heather,” I have to put down “Dylan” and let you crapshoot it out over the phone and figure out if you’re talking to a man or a woman. Enjoy.
- "Please include contact information for all previous employment."
The reason I don’t work at a lot of the places I used to work is that the programs went belly up… as in no one there remembers me. Four years ago, I felt fine forwarding you to the corporate office in Boston, even though I worked in Austin, because the people there still knew me. However, even they’ve changed now. Here, call this person in a tower who has no idea who I am… they’ll be a great character reference.
- "Please include all phone numbers for previous employers/supervisors."
Email. Just ask for email. Phones are archaic methods of communication, especially to non-profit people who move around after the work like migrant populations. Also, seriously, email works in most places with minimal infrastructure—phones, not so much. But, if you want to spend company money to call all over the world, you’re more than welcome to.
- "Thanks for attaching your resume, now please fill out our company’s standardized employment form that is literally everything on your resume."
Seriously, how has no one created a standard application online? There’s one for a good number of colleges, and there should be for employers—You don’t want to spend the extra ten minutes pouring over my resume to see the experience you want; I don’t want to spend the extra two hours it takes to fill out the same information I’ve filled out literally hundreds of times since I was twenty.
- "List all previous employment; attach additional sheets if needed."
No. Just no. I’m twenty-eight, listing everything for past decade results in everything from freshman year of college on. And, truthfully, there was a lot of meandering because of this lovely thing that happened right when I graduated… And, instead of being part of “generation whiny” I actually “got out there and took any job” that I could get—and now I have to explain a college graduate has worked for minimum wage for the bulk of their post-grad experience. My additional pages would literally make the application packet twice as big.
- "List desired wage."
Can I be snarky and say, “Living?” Because that would be boss. No? Great, now I have to play the balanace game where I don’t want to undervalue myself, but also don’t want to ask for too much money because then you’ll never take me seriously…
Okay, then it’s perfectly reasonable for someone with a BA to get paid the cost of living and tuition for a year at a public university, right? So that comes to… more than the current living wage because American universities are elitist institutions that created a society where you’re a loser if you don’t attend and poor if you do. But that’s fair, right? No… damn.
- "Please include references, with phone, address, and pre-formatted reference sheet."
Wait… what? I don’t even know if you’re considering me and you want me to ask multiple people to say, “Hey, she’s not a mass murderer!” and take time out of their lives in order to vet someone who might not even be a viable candidate?
"And the award for "Worst Friend" goes to…"
The only thing that stresses me out more than my current job (where I’m overworked, undervalued and underpaid—with the highest wage of my life) is applying for other jobs.
The Biggest Loser premiere always makes me wonder: Do I carry my weight really well or
suffer from do I have extremely high self esteem?
“Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?”, Part 1 of 2. (link to Part 2)
- College Men: Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,Lisak and Miller, 2002 [PDF, 12 pages]
- Navy Men: Lisak and Miller’s results were essentially duplicated in an even larger study (2,925 men): Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel, McWhorter, 2009 [PDF, 16 pages]
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Reblogging because I mentioned this study in a post the other day and someone reblogged & replied insinuating that I’d made it up, but I didn’t have the citation on hand right then. As I said then: rape culture is what teaches rapists that they aren’t rapists.
^ bolded for emphasis
I’d love to be shocked by this, but in South Africa, one in four men openly admit to rape.
It’d be interesting to see what would happen if you got a group of women the same size and explain what constitutes sexual assault….
And by “interesting,” I mean “soul crushing, further reiteration of how our society is so good at condoning violent behavior in men and so good at victim blaming that you can go through most of your young relationships without ever realizing you have the right to say, “No,” to anything you damn well please.”
When the pizza gets down to the last slice, it’s time to commit and finish that sucker off… aka “hide all evidence that there even was a pizza.”
Listening to the all male night staff at work geek out about Jensen Ackles kind of makes my day.
I’m so lucky to have a roommate who understands the importance of the three C’s:
Coffee, crappy movies, and Chris Evans.
I have these stupid, “I don’t know how to use chopsticks” chopsticks… so, naturally, as someone who can eat anything with chopsticks, I can’t eat anything with them…